We were sitting outside, preparing our ESL lessons for the evening class, when we heard the front gate open, which was unlocked because we had lots of visitors that morning. Before we had a chance to assess the situation, a man – shabbily dressed – was standing in front of us, showering us with French greetings, which is the local way of being polite. In quick succession he asked: How are you? How is the family? How is the house? Did you sleep well? Are you having a good day?
He said he knew the previous missionary who lived in the house (and provided his name), and that the missionary was a ‘god parent’ of sorts, who took care of him in Ouagadougou. He said he had just arrived from a town up north and didn’t know anyone else. He said he was sick, and needed money for heart medication urgently. He showed me some scars and empty medication.
Missionaries in this part of the world are faced with this type of situation every day, and unfortunately, there’s no set of rules on how to deal with it. Sometimes it is a young student wanting some money to pay school fees. Logically, you may ask why not contact the school or pharmacy and see if they are legitimate requests. But the school or medical clinic may be a long way away (as things invariably are here), and may not even have telephones.
Some of the giving guidelines used by people in Western countries don’t work here; for example I know it makes sense in Australia not to hand out money, but perhaps support social services that look after the needy. But what do you do when social services are minimal, or not there?
Usually the sums of money being requested are anywhere from the equivalent of 25 cents to $20. This man at our doorstep was asking for $7.50. As the price of food and essential living costs rise, the frequency of these visits are expected to rise.
To complicate matters, if you do give money and it’s a con, you can expect to receive the reputation of being a soft target and be inundated with requests. On the other hand, you may say no to someone who desperately needed that money, when you had the resources to help. Some missionaries have beautiful stories of, for example, giving some money to a young girl who said she needed money for school fees, who becomes one of the few women in the region to receive an education.
The Bible warns in James chapter 2 not to wish someone in need well, and do nothing about his physical needs. Also, Matthew 25 reads: 'Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?' He will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.'
For the record, after speaking for several minutes with this man, his story started to change, and the amount of money that the medication cost fluctuated. He also became aggressive (but we weren't sure if this was a sign of desperation or a bully tactic). We sought some advice from a missionary friend on the telephone, and ultimately decided to feed him, but not give him any money.
We have no idea if we did the right thing.
Jon